Saturday, May 28, 2011

Planning a Wedding Without Him

Like I said before, I'm planning a wedding! If all goes as we're hoping, he'll be coming home a month from tomorrow and we'll be getting married July 1st. We've been engaged since November, so I've been kind of taking my time planning. I found my dress back in January (I love it so much). The bridesmaids' dresses are in and the groomsmen's tuxes are picked out. My maid of honor and I found some sweet decorations and whatnot... It's all coming together pretty well so far. We have come across one problem though: he gets upset because he can't help out.
Since he's 1000 miles a way in Georgia, it's obviously hard for him to help me decide on which caterer's food is the best, which hall we like better, and all sorts of other stuff. I know he wouldn't be going dress shopping and stuff like that with us, but the other stuff that he's supposed to be here for is stressful for him and me both.
It was weird registering for our shower without him. The lady at Bed Bath & Beyond though that my MO and I were a couple. It was too funny:) Anyway, have you ladies come across problems like this? I feel bad that he can't help out with everything, but it's simply not logical for me to keep putting off the planning until 3 days before we get married. I just can't do that to myself or my family.
How did you involve your man without making him feel left out?
What were your wedding colors?
How long did you take to plan your wedding?
What was (or has been) your favorite part about planning the wedding?

Leave more questions or comments below:) Thanks! God bless. ♥Vi
Oh, one last thing: This is my garter. I'm super excited about it.

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Friday, May 27, 2011

Frustrating Leave Process

Okay, it's time for me to vent. I've been planning my wedding for August 14th, 2011 since November. About a month ago, my soldier pointed out to me that he should get block leave sometime this summer so we could *hope* that it would line up with our planned wedding. However, when I told my parents this, they freaked out and canceled our caterer, hall reservation, DJ,  and everything else we've done.
Now, I'm patiently waiting for his leave to go through. He applied last week but we still haven't heard anything. We're now hoping for him to come home from June 29-July 8th.
I'm so stressed about the whole thing! Ah! Also, his roommate at the barracks is in the same battalion, but a different company. His family only lives a few hours away from me so his distance to go home is no different than my soldier's. He is allowed to come home on every four day weekend, without question. However, mine hasn't been home since November when he graduated from AIT. It's extremely unfair and even more frustrating.
On the upside, his roommate is getting married today! Congrats to him!! Hopefully my turn will come in about a month. Wish me luck!!
Has something similar happened to you?
How do you deal with never being able to plan?

Thanks! God Bless. ♥ Vi

Thursday, May 26, 2011

About the Owner

My name is Victoria. I'm an Army fiancée (the wedding is tentatively July 1st, 2011- leave is pending). My soldier's name is Jimmy. He's a tanker. I'm currently living in Michigan and he's stationed in Georgia. I'm planning to go to Georgia Southern University in the Fall.
Jimmy and I met in middle school, but didn't start dating until my junior year of high school. He's a year older than me, so he was getting ready to graduate... and join the Army. We were together for almost 6 months when he left for basic.
We've now been together for almost a year and a half. Our love story is published in a book called Military Love. It's available at (just type "Military Love" into the search bar).
It's my dream to keep this blog running as long as I can, but I'll warn that my summer is busy this year. Moving 1,000 miles away will definitely be an adventure.
I want to become friends with all of you, start personal relationships with you all, relate to you, and get to know you and your soldier.
Please feel free to comment on any of these posts with suggestions and ideas. Thanks!


Welcome to the site! My hope for this website is to address the problems, struggles, and joys that people go through as a military spouse. Please note, this site is not just for wives! Girlfriends, fiancées, best friends, and family are more than welcome to be part of this site. Please respect OPSEC. Please do not slander one another. This is a safe place for people to come and share their feelings. If you'd like me to cover a topic, please tell me. If I don't know, I will create a post asking other followers to respond. I have high hopes for this website. Thank you all for joining. Please continue to follow me and give me ideas or suggestions for what you'd like to see.