Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Things Change

The number one lesson I've learned from being an Army wife is that you can't ever count on anything. Ever. Let's take this week for example. First, the boys were supposed to go to the field Sunday night and be back Tuesday. Okay, no biggie. Then, they changed it to Monday morning until Tuesday. No complaints from me. NOW... He's been in the field since Monday, still not home, and doesn't know when he'll be home.
It would be wonderful if the Army could plan ahead for... everything? or at least something! It's like this all the time. Those of you who are already actively involved in the military know exactly what I'm talking about. Those of you who are considering it, be warned: it's awful for planning.
As some of you may recall, when my husband and I were planning our wedding, the leave dates changed about a million times. We were trying to schedule everything around when his company was getting tanks. However, that date changed more times than I can even remember. It was nearly impossible to plan anything.
This is the biggest complaint that I have about the Army. It adds so much stress to the wives. We never know if we'll be sleeping alone for a day or a month (okay, that's a slight exaggeration, but not always...). I'm just tired of not knowing what is going on. I just want my husband back. This week has been stressful enough as it is, I don't need anything to add to it.
God Bless, ♥Vi

Monday, November 28, 2011

Bad Day

Today just hasn't been the best. As an Army wife, I've learned to expect the worst things to happen while my husband is away. It always works that way.
When they are at work, the dryer/toilet/other major appliance will break (that hasn't happened to me yet).
When they're in the field, you'll get a flat tire.
When they're still in the field, you'll be extremely sick.
When they're deployed, you'll never want a hug more than then...
I just expect bad things to happen. Today for instance, I just got some bad news... I'm not going to post it on here yet, since I'm not entirely certain on the situation. Either way, I haven't really stopped crying since 11:30 this morning. It's 7:00pm now. Thank God I've got my puppy though. She knows when her mommy is sad... She won't leave me alone. She and I are just laying on the bed cuddling, waiting for the laundry to be done.
Today has been relatively productive I suppose. I still have oodles of homework to do, along with more housework. I'm giving up on today though. I'm sorry for being so pessimistic, I'm just rather depressed today.
I did find something to help me keep my head up though.
It's true. I know I'll make it through this. Nothing in life so far as killed me, so why will this be any different? I am strong. So are you.
God Bless. ♥ Vi

Sunday, November 27, 2011

'Tis the Season





I love this time of year. Even though it's weird being somewhere without snow for the holidays, I'm more cheerful this year than I was last year. It helps to have my husband with me. I feel pathetic, but I feel so much happier when I'm with him. We've gotten about half of our Christmas shopping done now. We've got more to do though.
It was amazing having my mom and brother here for Thanksgiving. Even though they were only here for two days, it was great. We went swimming and out to dinner Wednesday night when they got here. Thursday we had Thanksgiving dinner and went to the museum on post. It turns out, our base has the statue of Saddam Hussein from Baghdad. It's not the one that they made a huge deal about tearing down, but it's a metal bust. It was so awesome to see something that has such a part in history. I was so geeked for the rest of the night. This is why I'll be a history major.
Friday, my mom and I went Black Friday shopping with a friend of mine and her mom. It was fun to go shopping with my mom again... It's been a while. We didn't get a ton of stuff, but we did get some great deals. I got a huge bed for Mia. It was normally $65 and I got it for $16. I also got a $52 sweater for $20. I was pretty excited. They left Friday night though. Their visit was short but sweet. Only three weeks until we come home for Christmas.
Saturday my husband and I did our Christmas pictures. They turned out fantastic. Most of them are posted around here. I love how they turned out. Overall, it was just an amazing weekend. I'm so happy. I'm going back to school tomorrow and my husband is going to the field. The next few weeks should be good though. I'm so excited to finish my first semester of school and go back home for a while.
God Bless. ♥Vi

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Thanksgiving Week!

     I'm so excited to have my family coming down this week. I haven't seen my brother or my dad since July when we left. My mom visited for the first weekend in October, but it's still been two months since I've seen her. That's one of the hardest part of living an Army wife lifestyle; the separation.
     I adjusted to being away from someone I love a while ago. My husband left about a year and a half ago for basic. So I've had some experience with being away. I must say, though, it's different being away from a boyfriend, fiancĂ©, or husband, than being away from your parents. Granted, I was only 17 when I left home. I'm sure that made a difference as well. Older (no offense) people who've lived away from their parents before might not have as much of a problem when they leave for the Army.
     I had never lived away from home before I moved here. In fact, the farthest I'd ever been away from home for any length of time was band camp about four hours away. That was only for a week. However, I wasn't responsible for cooking, cleaning, or anything else really.
     Moving down here was definitely a huge adjustment for me, but I've made the best of it. I love my life more than ever before.
     Anyway, I'm really excited to see my family again. I'm nervous to make Thanksgiving dinner, but I'm sure my mom will help me. I've got lots of cleaning to do this week to get ready for their visit. I want everything to be perfect.
     My husband should be back from the field sometime this morning. I can't wait to see him! Well, that's all for now I guess. Not a lot of interesting stuff has happened the past few days. God Bless. ♥Vi

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Coupon Madness

I think I've posted before about couponing, but I've gotten even better since then. Basically, in September I ordered a subscription to the local newspaper. The commissary had subscriptions on sale for about 50% off. Instead of paying over $100 for just Sunday papers for a year, I paid about $100 for Friday-Sunday. That in itself was big savings.
Each week, I get about $50-$100 in coupons. Granted, I don't ever use all of them. I'd say I use about $15-$30 out of each paper. I also look online. There are websites like coupons.com or smartsource.com that you can print coupons from. Between the newspaper, websites, and my grandma mailing me coupons, I get a lot of the same coupons in different forms so I can double or triple them.
That is most important tip I have for couponing: stack coupons. Most stores won't let you, but the commissary is great for that. Some cashiers don't let you; they sit and check each coupon as they scan them. I still get away with a lot, especially if it's coupons like .60₵ off three crescent rolls. Then I can combine one for .50₵ off two, or .20₵ off one. If I've got them, I'll use all three! A lot of the time, the commissary has Military Store Coupons on display that you can combine too.


The worst place to coupon is Wal-Mart. They are extremely stingy about letting you double up on coupons. The other night, I had to go buy some last-minute supplies for my husband's field training. The commissary was closed, so I ended up at Wal-Mart. If I would have bought everything at the commissary, I would have gotten free toothpaste (with a 25₵ credit), a liter of mouthwash for about .75₵, and body wash for $1.50 (normally $3.75). Since I went to Wal-Mart, I only got .50₵ off my toothpaste, $1.00 off mouthwash, and .50₵ off the body wash. I basically spent about $8.00 more than I needed to because they wouldn't take all my coupons. I even got the manager involved.
Most coupons say "LIMIT ONE"  but also "LIMIT OF 4 LIKE COUPONS." So you can use up to four different coupons for the same product, IF you're at a good store.
Here are a couple pictures of my last two trips to the commissary. I think I'm doing pretty good. Some people measure your savings by percentage, so my first trip would have been better. 23% is awesome for me! But I saved more money my second trip. Even though my savings was only 18%, I still saved over $30. I spent much more on that trip, but I was buying Thanksgiving dinner. A turkey, stuffing, candles, and some other stuff. Almost everything I bought, I had coupons for. My second trip averaged at almost $1.00 per coupon. That's pretty awesome, right?
If you all have any questions, feel free to comment! I know I'm not one of those extreme couponers but I do pretty well, if I do say so myself.
God Bless. ♥ Vi

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Big Happenings

This weekend was a landmark weekend for my husband and I. November 14th was a year since he proposed. It's indescribable how much things have changed in the past year. We went from living 1,000 miles away to living together. From only seeing each other once every three months to seeing each other every day. I'm so happy with my life. I've never been this content.
November 15th (yesterday) was a year since he got to his first duty station. It's odd that he left for the field yesterday too. He'll be back at the end of the week for Thanksgiving week. 
Other than that, life is good. 
My family will be here next week. I'm excited to see them! Is everyone else ready for the holiday season? I'm so excited for Black Friday shopping! It should be madness.
Gob Bless. ♥ Vi

Tuesday, November 08, 2011

College Kid and an Army Wife

Sometimes I find myself torn between my "wifely duties" and my school work. I'm not talking about sexual stuff though. I'm talking about choosing to study for a final or to clean the kitchen. I have to pick all the time between housework and school work. I'm struggling a little bit lately on making the decision. For a few days, my house will be a disaster and my grades will be great. Then a few days later, my grades will dive-bomb and my house will be spotless. I need to figure out a way to balance all this. I'm still struggling a little bit to sell my Thirty-One products, but I'm trying as hard as I can. I still have to sell at least $800 more this month. That's going to be tough, if not impossible. What else is going on? Not too much. Hubby is supposed to be home from the field tonight, so I'm going to make him a nice dinner and hopefully have the house all nice and clean before he gets home. I'm still driving the truck to school. It's costing me about $25 every day to get to school and back. It really stinks. It's my goal to have tires by the end of this week. Well, that's all I've got for now.
God Bless. ♥ Vi

Monday, November 07, 2011

My Philosophy

I have a few things I'd like to share. This is all my opinion, so if you don't like it.... Well, I don't care.
1. A married/engaged/dating woman should never find comfort in the arms of another man. I don't care what the situation is, it's not appropriate. Yes, I understand... "He's not here and I needed a hug..." FIND SOMEONE WITH BOOBS! NEWS FLASH! Girls can hug too! Even if the guy is the one having a bad day or needing a hug, tell him to find someone without a man. There are plenty of single girls in the world that are more than willing to give out hugs like candy. It's not your responsibility. When you're all over another man, you're slapping your man in the face. You can't tell me you wouldn't be mad if you saw your man in the arms of another woman.

2. If you do fall into the arms of another man and are okay with that feeling, leave your man. One million times over, I would rather be left than cheated on. People act like it's a bad thing to be left for someone else, but come on people... Would you rather be cheated on? I didn't think so. Yes, it does hurt to be left for another woman, but it's better than not being left and him still going to the woman. It goes the same way for a man. Don't be all over another man just because yours isn't around. Don't be a slut.

This next one should raise some hell, but like I said, this is my opinion and I'm frustrated to pieces right now.

3. The purpose of being engaged is to plan a wedding. If you're engaged, here are the "rules" for you:
       1. Plan your wedding! Even if it's just setting a date 5 years down the road, or deciding you want to wait five years, figure out something so you have something to tell people! This is not saying that long engagements aren't okay! As long as you're planning some parts of your wedding along the way, you're engaged and I'm happy for you.
       2. Let your man propose, or propose to him. Don't just "decide" to be engaged because "in a relationship" isn't enough anymore. You're either just dating, or planning a wedding.
       3. DO NOT flirt with other guys, this goes along with number one and number two on the main list. It bugs the crap out of me when women wear their engagement rings or wedding bands but flirt with other men. You're wearing his ring for a reason. Don't disrespect it. He worked hard for it.

4. Don't down talk your man or your love. Even if people say you are way cheesy or love-stupid, tell the world. Wearing your heart on your sleeve is the best way to let your man know you're proud to be his. Don't be shy to tell people you're dating/engaged to/married to your man. After all, if you want to be with him forever, why wouldn't you want the world to know?

I considered it, but I decided that I'm not going to apologize for this rant. I have the right to state my opinion, just as you all have the right to disagree with it. I'm so tired of seeing my friends and my husband's friends getting used and cheated on. Seriously ladies, have some class. Don't be the reason our gender gets a bad reputation. Be a lady. Be the woman that your man deserves.

That's all for tonight. Hubby is in the field and I'm cramming for my History exam I take tomorrow. God Bless. ♥ Vi

Sunday, November 06, 2011

Field Week

Hubby goes to the field tomorrow so I'll be lonely. Tonight we're spending some time together watching movies and just relaxing. I'm not looking forward to sleeping alone tomorrow, but what can I do? Mia will keep me company. I still don't have a car, so I'll be driving the gas-guzzling truck back and forth to school again. Oh joy! Anyway, I'm going to get tires this week so I'll be able to drive my car again. I'm exhausted from the weekend and last week. I need a week for mental health. I only have two more weeks of school until Thanksgiving break though. I'm so excited to see my family again. Well, I'm going to get back to my movie. Can you tell how excited Jimmy was for me to be updating this? God Bless. ♥ Vi

Friday, November 04, 2011

Living the Dream

I was thinking the other day, I really am living the dream. My life is the classic American love story...
Boy meets girl. Boy falls in love. Girl doesn't. Boy moves on. Girl falls in love. Girl wishes she would have before. Boy comes back for her. Boy joins the Army. Girl is heart brokenThey make it through. Boy proposes. Girl says yes. Boy leaves again. Girl sees boy 6 times in a year. Boy comes home. They get married.  Girl moves 1,000 miles away from home. They live happily ever after. ♥
I just want to take a minute to say that I love my life. That really is our story in a nutshell. I wouldn't change what I've done for anything. Don't get me wrong, I miss my family and friends terribly. Yet, I find myself completely content where I'm at. I love the army lifestyle. I love meeting people from all parts of the world. Really, some of my best friends are from Oregon, Louisiana, and Georgia of course. Before I barely talked to anyone who lived outside Michigan. I've come so far out of my bubble. It's crazy for me to think about how much I've changed in the past four months. Like I said, though, I wouldn't change it for anything.

One year ago today I was driving to Kentucky to surprise my husband at his OSUT graduation. He didn't know I was going to be able to come. Looking back on the past year, it has definitely been the hardest year of my life. I've been through so much emotional turmoil it's hard to believe. Sometimes I wonder how I haven't gone crazy. For those of you reading this who aren't yet involved in the military, I won't lie, it's definitely emotionally tough. There were lots of nights that I cried myself to sleep because I was tired of being alone, and many more nights that I cried just because I was tired of being strong all the time. It's a rough life, but it makes the time you have with your soldier a million times more worth it.
Anyway, I am so proud of my husband. He has become such a great soldier. He's out at gunnery today so he'll probably be late coming home tonight. I miss him already and it's only 10:00 in the morning. At least I have my bear. There he is -->
I love this bear to cuddle with. My husband got him for me for Christmas last year and I've been so attached to him ever since. I even sprayed him with my husband's cologne so when I was asleep I would dream of him. Wow, I sound like a cheese-ball. Anyway, I love my bear. If your SO can ever get you something like this, let him. Bear has helped me through so much. I know it seems stupid, but it really does calm me down.
That's all I've got for now!
God Bless. ♥ Vi

Wednesday, November 02, 2011

Feeling Much Better

Yesterday I was still slightly off. I was feeling sort of down but my husband made me feel much better. He brought me cookie dough and we had a dance party. That was a lot of fun. I felt so silly, but it helped me relax a lot.
I'm working on my tanker project more. I'm loving it. I have to do interviews this weekend since they go to the field tomorrow. The company seems pretty excited about it.
I'm going to have to break out my bear for a few nights since my hubby won't be home for a bit. I have to show everyone a picture of him. My husband got me a bear made of ACU's back around Christmas. He is my cuddle buddy when I'm not with my husband. I love my bear.
Something that was a pain in my butt this week was having to go through the main gate. Since I didn't have my car from Saturday until Tuesday, I didn't have my decals. We live close to a 24 hour gate, but about 10-12 miles from the main gate (the only one you can get in without decals). On top of adding 12 miles to my trip (more than that on the way home from school), it also added a lot of time. ANYONE who doesn't have decals has to go through the same lane. It takes forever. But now I have my car back so it's okay.
Well, I should probably pay attention in class. So, I'll talk to you all later.
God Bless. ♥ Vi.