Tuesday, October 30, 2012

True Dedication

I'm sure many of you have seen this picture cycling around the internet during the storm for the past few days... Although people claim it is actually from September, rather than during Hurricane Sandy, there is still a very important lesson to be learned from it. These soldiers are truly dedicated to something; their passion is on fire. 

This made me think, what am I that passionate about? Honestly, there isn't a whole lot in this world that I would be willing to stand out in a hurricane, or even just a bad rain storm, for. Obviously I would do absolutely anything for my daughter and husband. I might be willing to brave the storm for a little bit to get a good picture or two, but I definitely don't have the kind of dedication for my job that these soldiers have. I admire that more than you could probably imagine. I really feel that it is important to have something in life that you're this passionate about. When you find it, don't give it up.

Another thing that we can learn from this is that we are blessed. Our lives are not that bad. Yeah, we have bad days. We lose stuff. We complain. It's because of men and women like these that we have the right to complain. Their dedication to their country is incredible and so admirable. I need to remind myself of this from time to time... The next time you have to go out in the cold to get the mail, think about what our soldiers are doing. The next time you have to go to work on less than 5 hours of sleep, think about them. Remember what they go through, just so you don't have to. Be thankful.

On that note, I will complain because I went out in the cold this morning. Just kidding, but really... As much as I hate the cold (those of you who know me know how much that is...), I braved the outskirts of Sandy to take some pictures of snow for my husband. That's right, it's snowing... Technically, the weather man says it's a "wintery mix," but I say it's freaking snowing. Thank God it isn't sticking other than around trees on on tables.

Well, I will end on that for today. I hope all of my followers are staying safe out there in this bizarre weather. Also, remember to be thankful for what you have because of those who serve. 
God Bless ♥ Vi

Sunday, October 28, 2012

What Do You Think?

I'm looking for reviews about the new layout. I've been messing with some different ideas, but I think I like this one the best. Yay or nay?

I'm also looking for questions to answer about deployment, motherhood, traveling, family life, etc. My life is an open book, so feel free to ask!

If you have any suggestions to help me improve my blog, please let me know. What would you like to see more/less of? I'm finally starting to post a little more frequently, and am hoping to continue doing so from now on. I know I've said that before, but I am determined this time!

God Bless ♥ Vi

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Being Happy During Deployment

One of the most important things I've found to be essential so far in this deployment is a positive outlook on life. You can't just sit there with a "woe is me" attitude. Yes, deployment sucks. Yes, you miss your husband. Yes, life is harder when he's not around! But, you are woman! You are strong! You are capable!

Let's look at the good things that come from deployment:

  • More Bed Space
  • Less Laundry
  • Less Dishes
  • Less Housework
  • Lower Grocery Bills
  • No More Gory Movies
  • No More Fighting Over the Radio
  • More Time to Better Yourself
Now, don't get all "Wow, why are you even married if you hate all these things when he's around?!" with me... I love my husband and the life that we have together. In fact, I miss picking up the tons of dishes that he leaves laying throughout the house, the laundry all over our bedroom, and even the stinky PT socks. I miss it all, but these parts of life are actually easier when he's not home. I would definitely rather have him around than deployed, but I'll take advantage of the break in laundry and dishes while I can. Why not make the best of a bad situation? 

The other thing that drives me insane is women constantly complain about not hearing from their husbands. Again, let me say... Yes, it sucks. Yes, I'm sure you want to tell him about your day. Yes, you really want to talk to him about who knows what. But, you are woman. You are strong. You can go a few days without telling your husband that you peed. Goodness gracious, this is deployment. As I said in my last post, I have been extremely blessed to have good contact so far, but you can't go into a deployment expecting to talk every day. 

When bad things happen, instead of posting all over your Facebook about how things couldn't get worse, or about how you've had the worst week of your life, or whatever else it may be... Post about how you rocked the shit out of that bad week. Post about how, despite the bad event that happened, you came out on top and conquered. Make your husband proud of you. The absolute last thing that he should be worrying about while he is deployed is whether or not you're handling everything okay. Do you really want your husband sitting there thinking about whether or not you're sobbing in a corner? No! You want him to be watching his back and keeping his head down. Do not stress your husband out by posting every little bad thing that happens all over your profile. The less you think about it, the better you will be. Just fix it and get on with it. 

Don't get all depressed about your soldier being deployed. Yes, it sucks (that's going to be my motto throughout this deployment). But, you can make deployment suck it. Show it who is boss. Remember, you are woman. You are strong! 

God Bless ♥ Vi. 

Friday, October 26, 2012

Dealing with Deployment

It's been a few weeks since my husband left. Honestly, I'm doing far better than I expected. Life goes on, even without constant communication with my hubby. The picture to the left was our last family picture for a while. It was such a bitter sweet day.

I know that my husband enlisted to deploy. He hates sitting in garrison doing nothing. He compares it to being on the football team, but sitting the bench for every game. It just sucks (for him). I don't mind the view from the bench. Granted, I would hate to be the one sitting there, but I don't mind when he is. Of course, I'd rather have him be here with Adalin and me, but this is all part of the Army life. I had quite a bit of notice for this deployment, so I was much more mentally prepared than I expected. I definitely cried like a baby for a few days before he left, and for the first few days that he was gone. That was to be expected. The worst part was watching Jimmy say goodbye to Adalin. Knowing that he's missing so much doesn't make this any easier. Thankfully, she was sleeping when we said our last goodbyes so he just kissed her on the forehead, said his "I love you, Pumpkin," and walked away. Gosh, thinking about that moment is going to make me tear up. Moving on!

Much progress has been made already. I haven't cried in a few weeks. I am now visiting home, because I haven't been back here since last Christmas. I'm leaving to go back to Georgia next weekend, but I'll be back up here in Michigan again in December as long as Adalin doesn't have to have surgery then. I've been using my deployment countdown (I'll post a tutorial and pictures when I get back to GA) religiously. It has helped a ton. I'm such a visual person. I have about a million countdowns on my phone. I am doing a bunch for different holidays, the 25% mark, the half way mark, and days since he left/til he comes home. They are nice for me. I also use the "Donut of Misery" app on my phone (Android) that shows what percent you have completed, as well as a bunch of other statistics. I love numbers so it's great for me. I know that a lot of people struggle with that because they don't like seeing the "97% to go" (that's not how much I have left, following OPSEC), or the "286 days left." Even seeing "13 days done" (again not what we have done, OPSEC), can be overwhelming because we have a tendency to think, "That's it?! That's all we've got?! Ugh." I understand both side, but I choose to think, "We've already got 13 days down! Woo hoo!"

We get to talk almost every day. We Skype a few times every week, and alternate between phone calls and just chatting on Facebook. We are so blessed with how amazing communication has been so far. I'm praying that it will continue to be this great throughout the whole deployment. I can't believe how fast the past few weeks have flown by. It just amazes me.

Overall, I try to keep positive as often as possible. I figure, there's no sense being upset over something you can't change. I'm hoping to keep this positive attitude going as long as possible. I've been doing great so far, it's definitely helping time fly by.

God Bless ♥ Vi

Monday, October 22, 2012

Surviving the First Two Months

Here is my essential list of what I needed to survive the first two months:

  1. Fisher Price Cradle n' Swing: This is amazing! There were (and still are) several times that Adalin will only sleep in here. She has recently discovered her reflection in the mirror and absolutely loves it. I like this swing because it swings both front to back, and side to side. At the beginning, she only liked side to side, but now we have to alternate every once and a while. Definitely worth the investment!
  2. Gas Drops: These were a life saver from about two weeks on. She has learned what they are and gets excited when she sees the bottle. They even help her sleep if she's fussing.
  3. Cloud B Gentle Giraffe: Oh my goodness. This giraffe is a life saver. It plays four different sounds, including water noises and heart beat sounds. At first, Adalin really liked the heart beat sounds, but after she was about a week old, she hated it. Since then, water sounds are just about the only thing that she will sleep to. I absolutely love this giraffe. It's very soft and has a strap that you can attach to the crib/stroller/etc. It's just wonderful!
  4. Playtex Ventaire Bottles: Bottles are completely a personal choice. I liked these because Adalin spits up the least with them. The air comes through the bottom, rather than through the nipple so there is less air in the milk/formula. They aren't all that expensive either.
  5. Mitten Cuff Sleepers: These are great because it's easy to change diapers in the middle of the night with them, and they keep baby's hands warmer. Adalin now kicks her legs enough that she ends up wearing them like a tee shirt, but they're wonderful for newborns.
  6. Bath Seat: I love the soft seat like this. My mom just bought me a hard baby tub to use while I'm visiting, but it's a little harder to use than the bath seat in my opinion. I think that if I would have started out with the baby tub, I would like it better. I like using the seat in the tub though because you can move them around a little easier.
  7. Bottle Drying Rack: At first, I thought this was a waste of money, but now I'm so glad I got it. I'm shocked that bottles won't just dry sitting out. I have one very similar to the one in the picture, but I'm not sure if it's exactly the same. Also, a bottle brush is essentail to get those suckers clean.
  8. Bouncer: Adalin loves sitting in her bouncer. I feel more comfortable leaving her in this than on the floor when I'm wandering the house since my dog still hasn't quite realized how big her paws are. Adalin hasn't been stepped on yet, but I'd like to keep it that way. I really like the Boppy brand ones because they adjust to different angles, and are very cushy. It's another great investment!
If you have anything to add, post it in the comments! 

I should also mention, my husband is deployed now. I'm doing far better than I expected for this early on in the game. I had a few rough days after he left, but now I'm in a great routine and killing this deployment. Hubby is doing very well over there. Communication has been great so far and we're hoping it will continue for the upcoming months. That's all I've got for now! I'm really going to try to update more often. Life as a mom is much busier than I expected! 

God Bless ♥ Vi